How to be Young and Single

By In Faith, Lifestyle — April 29, 2016

Standing atop a rock formation deep in the Rocky Mountains . . .

a slight breeze ruffles my short hair.  I take a deep breath of satisfaction, the smell of pine and wild flowers stimulates my senses.  I am looking over a lake; it shimmers in the pale spring sun.  The sight before me is beautiful, and I am completely alone.

I cherish these lone moments.  I cherish the journey I am currently traveling.  The journey consists of Jesus and me, carving our way through this worn world together.  It’s an exciting journey and one which I am not yet ready to share with a partner.

The path I was previously traveling was one accompanied by family.  My mother, father, brother, sister and I explored the world together.  We lived life together.  However, I am now at a new stage of life, one in which all decisions are dependent on me, and it is exhilarating.

I am choosing to remain single during this stage in life because of the nature of this time.  This is a time that is privately reserved.  It is a time in which I am allowing God to make as many radical changes to my character, my occupation, and my living circumstances as He may choose.

This is a time for self examination and reflection.  This is a time of great change and growth.  However, there seem to be many people around me who are afraid of change.  Many of my comrades want to be kept distracted from the deep and invasive questions of life:

What is the purpose of life?

Why are you here?

Who were you made to be?

What task has God made for you to accomplish?

All of these questions are large and terrifying, and I feel as if my generation has come to create more and more ways of avoiding answering them.  Young people keep themselves constantly distracted.  They are distracted with work, school, social media, success, friends, boyfriends, girlfriends, family, or any number of things, just to keep themselves from having to think about these important questions.

Twenty-One Pilot’s song, Car Radio, states humanity’s fear of reflection in the following lyrics:

“Sometimes quiet is violent . . . I ponder of something terrifying
‘Cause this time there’s no sound to hide behind
I find over the course of our human existence
One thing consists of consistence
And it’s that we’re all battling fear
Oh dear, I don’t know if we know why we’re here
Oh my,
Too deep
Please stop thinking”

People are afraid of being alone.  Many individuals are afraid of being alone with their thoughts.  Our society seems to have lost the beauty in occasional isolation.

Personally, I truly value times when it is just me, God, and nature.  These are the times I do the most thinking, the most crying, the most dreaming, the most smiling, and the most talking with God.  I have learned to cherish moments of lone thought.  These moments are exceedingly healthy when one learns to use them correctly.

Therefore, one of my greatest desires is to help others experience the power of reflection, the power of thought.  I want people to embrace hard questions and find answers.

In the same way, God longs for us to take times of hidden reflection, to take times of lone rest and self-examination.  Most importantly, to take those times and be alone with Him.  He wants us to ask Him the hard questions.  God wants us to go to Him for answers.  He wants us to seek His wisdom and long for quiet moments with Him.

“But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.”

Matthew 6:6

A secret time, a time that is set apart is not only valued by God, it is crucial in living a healthy and balanced existence.  Whether your place of isolation is in your room, your backyard, nature, or even your closet, go there.  Go and seek God.

Our time as young people is limited.  As life goes on, we find ourselves strapped with more responsibility.  Use this time wisely.  Use this time to ask God the hard questions.  Use this time to allow God to mold you into the person He desires you to be.  How can you do that?  Seek times to be alone with Him.

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