You Don’t See Me on My Bad Days . . .

By In Faith, Lifestyle — May 19, 2017

Staring out my window, I could see the world covered in a glistening blanket of snow. I was warm and comfortable in a nest of blankets, but I longed to be outside. I was too sick to go out. It had been two weeks since I had stepped past the threshold of the front door. Today, I was not having it. I was crying. And I cried for 3 hours.

In the modern world of social media and excessive information, we seem to become increasingly unenchanted with our lives. We see people living and loving over Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. People tend to post the positive (except for those deplorable people who only post memes of self-pity, stop it) in their lives. When we look at our own timelines and our experiences, we often feel inferior.

People occasionally ask me how I can be so positive when going through so much pain. My answer? You don’t see me on my bad days. Tis true my comrades. You don’t have the chance to see me on the days I don’t smile, on the days I stare at the wall in simple defeat. You only see me on the days when I am well enough to leave the house and keep a smile on my face.

The truth? Everyone has their bad days. Even the most inspirational and strong people have days when they make mistakes and break down. A practical application of this knowledge is in consideration of church leaders.

Too often I hear my friends or those around me expressing their outrage at “The Church” because of the hurt some leader has inflicted. To this, I must say, “they are only human.” Can you believe that the first church had disagreements, favoritism, and insults too?

For some reason, we tend to see pastors, priests, reverends, elders, deacons, and church leaders to be a high and mighty example of the ultimate “Christian.” We put too much pressure on our leaders to perform perfectly. Therefore, we find ourselves disappointed when they let us down in some form or manner because we believe them to be flawless. We don’t see them on their bad days.

People make mistakes, sometimes big mistakes, and while this is no excuse for becoming lazy in pursuit of self-improvement, we all mess up. People will let us down, disappoint us, hurt us . . . even church leaders. Our heroes have bad days too. We should never put people on a pedestal, it sets both parties up for defeat. If the hero makes a mistake, you are majorly disconcerted. Additionally, your hero is feeling the constant pressure to perform on a perfect basis, therefore increasing stress levels to a maximum.

Just because someone seems “amazing,” or “perfect,” or super “Godly,” it doesn’t mean that they are. We need to resist the temptation of putting both church leaders and life heroes on a pedestal of inspiration. We don’t see them on their bad days.



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